Improving your self confidence may seem like a daunting task—especially when you’re feeling anything but confident. But I have some great news for you! It can be done. And if you want to truly be successful in your personal and work life, it has to be done. I’m here to tell you how to do just that, in 10 easy-to-follow steps.

Gaining confidence is a skill that anyone can learn. Skills are something we can develop over time; when we flex them and work them like a muscle, they only get stronger. Let’s help you flex that confidence muscle to improve your self esteem and all other aspects of your life, too!

Tip 2: Allow Your Quiet Confidence to Do the Talking.

Confidence is a funny thing: It looks one way on the outside, but it can be very different on the inside. I used to see my outgoing, competitive, driven self as confident until I realized having the courage to accept that I wasn’t confident at all was the first real step in developing my self esteem.

Getting real with yourself as to where you are currently in life will allow you to start at the beginning. Once I realized I lacked actual confidence, I was able to focus on building it back up. One of the best building blocks for improving con-fidence is spending time doing that thing you’re good at, that you really enjoy doing.

For me, that was being a mom. Learning to help and teach my son to do the most simple things helped me to start building my confidence. I was starting a new job that I had no experience with, a first time mom—it would have been easy to feel overwhelmed, to be hard on myself. But as I watched myself par-ent, I realized my son was okay! He was actually learning and growing and even thriving. This victory during his first year of life gave me a great foundation for confidence.

The next step was acknowledging this success and writing it down, so when I would face a new challenge or question my confidence, I could go back and see that I already had a positive experience.

What is the one thing that you like to do or find easy to do that others don’t? Spend time doing that task and write down how you feel when you’re doing it. Remember your own personal victories. Even if one of your victories is just that your son drank a whole bottle or ate a vegetable puree, celebrate your wins and remember them. Once you begin tracking these quiet moments of confidence building, you won’t want to stop!